Someone dying

When someone you love or respect dies it can be an extremely hard thing to cope with. You might also hear it called bereavement.

It is a really upsetting and confusing time and although we will all go through it at some time death and the feelings that come with it are not talked about very much. This can make it even harder to cope with.

Common feelings

When someone you love dies you can go through a range of feelings like:

  • Anger
  • Confusion/disbelief
  • Happiness at good memories
  • Sadness/depression
  • Guilty that maybe there are things you should have said or done that you can’t now
  • Numb and that you can’t feel anything

These are all really normal reactions in grieving for someone who has died. It can be really easy to bottle up the feelings and pretend that you are ok but this is not a healthy way to deal with your emotions.

What I can do?

People around you might try to protect you by not talking to you about what has happened or avoiding the subject in case they upset you. This might make you feel worse because you don’t feel like you can talk about your feelings or the person you have lost.

However you are feeling it is good to talk to someone you trust about what is happening maybe another family member, a friend, a teacher or a youth worker.

If you feel like you can’t talk to someone you know there are helplines and organisations that can help you understand and deal with your emotions healthily.

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